Transitioning physically from one gender to an other is never an easy process. There is emotional and physical recovery that can take a lot of time.
As the world becomes more LGBTQ friendly, people are naturally more curious, and the trans community was kind enough to answer a few questions about their gender reassignment surgeries on reddit. What does it look like? How does it feel? What do people you have sex with think about it? Here’s how post-op transgender people describe and feel about their new bodies.
Looks fine, feels the same, but “not as stretchy”
For female-to-male transitions, surgeries aren’t good enough yet
“As someone who is female-to-male (FtM), one thing that bothers me the most is my lack of a penis. But like many others, unless the surgeries far advance, I won’t be having bottom surgery. The results are far too risky to even consider for me, even though my lack of a penis causes me great distress on a daily basis.”
The orgasms are awesome, but different
“It took a while to re-learn how [to have an orgasm] because it’s easier to lose it. Unlike if you have a penis, there isn’t the “no point of return” thing. You have to want to do it. That said, it feels f*cking great. …It’s definitely different, more whole-body tensing. Mind you, trans women who want the surgery might not have the same positive feelings about doing stuff pre-op as men do. Taking estrogen for a good while also means weaker orgasms prior to surgery. “
No post-orgasm sensitivity, but the same loss of interest in sex. Though not quite as strongly.”
“Way better than the former set-up”
“I genuinely don’t know how my junk’s performance measures to other people’s as I can only go off my own experience.
That being said, I love my new junk compared to the old arrangement.
After being on hormones [male-to-female] for about seven years, my former genitals had suffered severely from ED and barely worked…
Post-op and fully healed, my vag works way better than the former set up. I have more feeling and the orgasms are way better.”
Lost tissue, has scars from post-op complications
Requires a lot of work, but totally worth it
“[Male-to-female, 2.5 years post-op] I don’t self lubricate, so I need to always add lube to avoid friction. Dilation is required to keep its depth by stretching my internal walls – skipping this will cause it to shrink.
The week spent in hospital and the months of recovery was definitely worth it in the end for me.”
Works well, but not happy with it’s appearance
Tiny, but its existence is enough
Not entirely functioning, but with perks
A ton of new and confusing sensations to get used to
“Sensation is really, really weird when it’s developing, so it can actually be difficult to determine what exactly I’m sensing. Add to that the fact that there are two different kinds of sensation (tactile and erotic), which come from different nerve hookups (clitoris for erotic, and thigh/groin for tactile), and some spots have one but not the other. So it’s not easy to know exactly what’s going on when I feel stuff.
All that said, though, I can use it to get off, and can definitely feel it in my hand when I do so… that’s all I really need to be happy as far as sensation goes. Everything else is icing on the cake as far as I’m concerned.”
Regained feeling much sooner than expected
I was mentally prepared for it to be numb for the better part of a year, so I was really happy when I first noticed it at about four or five months post-op.
There are some areas that are mostly/entirely numb. The left side doesn’t have a lot of sensation.”